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These are the first four Myths:

  1. 1. Myth of Aloneness
    2. Myth of Ownership
    3. Myth of Less-Than Better-Than
    4. Myth of Lines

1. Myth of Aloneness

For many generations, more than you can count, the Myth of Aloneness has dominated the behavior, thinking and feelings of individuals, relationships, families, tribes, communities, organizations, societies and countries and your experience of the planet as a whole. The myth is an energy that expresses itself whispering in your ears that everything is separate, you are alone, on your own, the world revolves around you, you are better than others, you are less than others. The qualities of the energy in the Myth of Aloneness are fragmentation, isolation, singular focus on self, claimed innocence, protection, aggression, judging who is best, and separation. These are the voices and inner voices of those wrapped in the Myth of Alonenes

  1. My enemy is an animal. They are less than human. So I may do what I want to them. I/my tribe are the only humans.

  2. I/my tribe are the only important ones. I am the only human.

  3. I am right and everyone is wrong. They are dismissed, irrelevant and unnecessary.

  4. I/we follow our own desires and wants, wherever this leads us.

  5. We are the winners. We are the best. We are number one. We name “them” less-than.

  6. I am god. I am alone and above everyone else and can do as I wish.

  7. We are a tribe, with our own rules. Only certain people maybe part of our tribe.

  8. The essence of what makes us a tribe is that we are better than all the other tribes.

  9. I am alone. I am in despair. There is no hope for me or my children.

  10. I am different than everyone else. I do not fit in.

  11. When I pass, people look the other way. They do not smile. They do not     look into my eyes. Some avoid me.

  12. I am an object, a thing. I am used. I am abused. I am left to die.

  13. Not everyone can join our community. If they did, it would no longer be a special community.

  14. You are my best friends. All the other girls are less-than.

  15. I want …. I want so I can fit in. I must own certain things so that I can fit in.

  16. I want to look a certain way, change my body, dress a certain way, so I can      be a part of.

  17. I/my tribe are at the center of the universe. Everything centers around us.    This is our destiny.

It is important to remember that any of the living organisms (individuals, relationships, families, tribes, communities, organizations, societies and countries) can wrap themselves in the Myth of Aloneness. This is part of the nature of slavery, war and genocide.

The Myth of Aloneness is alive and well, held closely by many people, many tribes, communities, organizations, societies and countries. It can inspire great connection and loyalty within a tribe/community. The voices of the tribes wrapped in this myth sing out:

  1. We are one.

  2. We are the best.

  3. We take care of “our own.”

  4. We are separate from all other tribes.

  5. Some tribes are our enemies. Be careful, stay away from us, or we will make you our enemy.

  6. You must follow our ways or you will not be saved.

  7. You must follow our ways or you will be destroyed.

These are the voices of the tribes that wrap themselves in the Myth of Aloneness. The Myth of Aloneness touches everyone, some are touched lightly, others firmly, and still others are thick with the energy. The current condition of the planet is a reflection of this.

Buying and Selling of Women and Girls - The Myth at Work

Consider a common example: the buying and selling of women and children by and for men.

This happens over one million times each year. This is not only common today. The buying and selling of women and children by and for men is common throughout most of your generations. In this situation, everyone is touched by the myth. Let me explain why.

The Women and Children

The women and children who are taken, sold and bought feel profoundly alone. They feel abandoned. It is the strategy of the abductors to make them feel isolated. They do this through creating deep fear through intimidation, threats of harm to them or their families, through physical harm, drugs. The women and children who are taken, sold and bought feel little or no hope that anyone might hear their prayers or rescue them.

The Takers, Sellers and Buyers

The takers, sellers and buyers of women and children are also wrapped in the energy of the Myth of Aloneness. They experience no connection to the women and children who they force into slavery. The women and children are to them things, objects, items for sale. They are deaf to their screams of pain both external and internal. They care for their merchandise, only concerned with what condition is necessary to bring a good price. They are able to create this harm of buying and selling people because they have no connection. They are able to say to themselves: “I am alone; I am the center of my world. I am god no one is equal to me and I can do as I wish, determining who lives and who dies. I can do this because I am alone; I am not connected.” For them the Myth of Aloneness is a source of strength to do as they please. In part, they are able to do this because all the others are not listening to the prayers, their attention is elsewhere. It is much more difficult to stay wrapped in the Myth of Aloneness when there are witnesses.

Those Whose Attention Is Elsewhere

Finally, there is the largest group of people – those whose attention is elsewhere. Some deliberately do not listen. Others will say they are full and cannot hear. Still others are too busy. If you hear, even for just a minute or two, the prayers of those in slavery and do nothing, what explanation is there for this? People are absent and they are full. Why do the prayers of the women and children taken, sold and bought not activate you into movement? You might say, “I have my own problems to solve. I am sorry this happening.” Or someone else might say, “This is happening half-way around the world, what can I do? I am only one person. If I give money, half the time it never gets to the people who need it the most.” You could also say, “This is karma. Who am I to interfere.” Some people will say, “This is not my work. There are others who are taking care of this responding to the prayers. I will let them do the work.” There are others who say, “I am too old. I am too young, too poor, too busy, too full.” There are so many thoughts shaped into reasons.

This is the pattern of everyone touched by the Myth of Aloneness. The one who is harmed feels alone, separate, isolated. The ones who create the harm feel invulnerable and have no connection. The ones who surround all of this, who stand turned in different ways and do not feel the need to move, are also in their own way not connected. They are separate.

Breaking the Myth of Aloneness

Energetically, there is a simple movement that cuts through all the complexity. Be in-Learning and stay connected; this always leads to movement. The step from where you are right now to experiencing connection is not that large. It may seem large. This is another aspect of the myth. They myth says that the separation between yourself and others is large and in some cases spreads across a canyon of distance, leaving you with the sense that it cannot be bridged. This is not the case. In the world of energetic connections there is no time, space or distance. However, the real reason there is not a large chasm separating your from others is that everyone is already connected! All the Myth of Aloneness does is block your experience of connection. It does not block the connection itself. The connection is always there, always ready for you to experience it.

2. Myth of Ownership

No one owns anything. Whatever surrounds you is just visiting.

It was here before you arrived and will be there after you leave. However, you are “un-making” at a pace of movement which is ever-increasing, while in pursuit of ownership. The examples of this involve the un-making of the planet’s ability to sustain life. This is found in both simple and complex cases.

No one owns anything. Whatever surrounds you is just visiting.

The Myth of Ownership is all consuming. As you travel around the world you will see that it has infused into the very fabric of what you define as life. The Myth of Ownership whispers in your ears, “You are what you own. The more you own the better you are.” This myth readily weaves into the Myth of Attraction, saying, “The more you own, the more attractive you are.” Or it whispers, “Own this one special thing and you will be more attractive.”

I can tell you that in the earliest times of your life, you have no connection to the Myth of Ownership. In your end of days in the physical body, you have no connection to the Myth of Ownership.

The Myth of Ownership and the pursuit it encourages are the source for great imbalance within every community and across communities. This is one of its functions, to create imbalance. The myth says it is only by great imbalances between people and communities that we can tell who is the most important.

Just as people spend large amounts of their days consumed with attractiveness, they do the same with owning and acquiring. If you own many things, you must count them or how else can you know how much you own or how can you know if you have more than others. Acquiring, followed by counting and comparing, are the central movements of the Myth of Ownership.

Many people never discover their gift because of the Myth of Ownership. Their time is devoted to acquiring, counting and comparing. This is true of your children also. Think what you inspire your children to do. Storms of wanting with high winds blow regularly through your schools, as children desire certain objects. Ask the teachers; they will tell you: to “own” this object is to be “in,” “be attractive,” “be with,” “be within,” and “included.” If you do not “own” this object you are judged to be “out” and be “unattractive.” This is both a self-judgment and a judgment held by communities of children.

Tell me, is this a movement you wish for your children? What do you sense about this? Much time and energy is spent encouraging your children to be this way – to be in-Wanting. This is the Myth of Ownership at work. Is this a movement you wish for your children?

  1. Acquiring, counting, comparing, holding onto, desiring – where does this lead you?

  2. Sharing, giving, releasing, offering – where do these movements lead you?

Understand that the energy of people surrounded by the Myth of Ownership can lead to war. This is what happens when leaders and communities want something, feel it is their right to own something, believe that others have taken their possessions or are not worthy to hold something. Understand that the Myth of Ownership has displaced, divided, devoured the native peoples across the planet, as other communities and leaders have sought ownership of the land and its resources.

The function of the Myth of Ownership and the other myths creates division and separation. When any person or community moves while standing in the middle of the Myth of Ownership, deeply breathing its energy, listening to its mantra, this leads to harm. This myth’s deepest root is about relationship, your relationship. It reveals the fabric of your relationship. I do not limit the phrase “your relationship,” because the great myths, and this myth in particular, shape your relationship in as many directions as you can imagine.

How does the Myth of Ownership express itself in your life? It is not enough to simply say, “I am okay. I hold things lightly. I am not attached.” In the movement that is not part of the Myth of Ownership – the movement which resonates with growth and healing – the quality present is NOT detachment or non-attachment, or holding lightly. The movement is stewarding.


How do you steward? This is the energy of the message Take Care. How do you steward? You recognize the effects of stewarding, or if you prefer, the energy of Take Care, by how well the living system to which you are connected flourishes in growth and healing. To steward is to cultivate a deep respect and connection: 1) Be in-Learning, 2) Sense, 3) Hold the intention to steward, 4) Seek sacredness

I do not suggest that these are steps; rather the component movements which lead you to the condition called stewarding.

Seeking Sacredness

Seeking sacredness is the movement of opening – just as seeking ownership is the movement of closing. The native peoples have a deep sense of the sacred, which has not expressed itself in most modern communities. This is a great source of wisdom. Sacredness describes the relationship native peoples have to the planet. They do not recognize the concept of ownership. There is little room for ownership because they are filled with the sense of the sacred. As with the other messages, the movement is not to stop, the movement is to start.

Practice of Lightening Your Load

Notice that I do not tell you to get rid of all your possessions or points of ownership. Rather, seek the sacred; seek this form of connection in your relationships. Of course, there is nothing wrong with lightening all the items you carry; and this can be an interesting practice of intentionally traveling through your life more lightly.

At any time you can ask yourself, What can I let go of? And then act on this. This can apply to both physical possessions and energetic ones. Ask yourself, What I am ready to let go of – emotions stored in my energetic body, harms stored in my energetic body? If you sit quietly and ask these questions and remain somewhat still, you will often see – within doing this four or five times –  opportunities for what you can let go of. For most people, there is a storehouse of energetic opportunities.

You can focus this practice if you like and ask this in the context of a relationship. What am I carrying that I can let go of in my relationship with my friend, my partner…? Often people carry the energy of other people in their energetic body and this can also be released. This is similar to the question asked earlier: How often are you yourself? Being surrounded by people or communities deep in-Knowing often leads to holding the energy of others. You can be relatively sure that if you are “not yourself,” then you are carrying other people’s energy. Release this energy and make room for you to be yourself. Often people are so filled up that there is no room for them to be themselves. They are constrained in their actions and their thinking and their sensing of possibilities; and they are in the habit of being “others,” which is expected of them.

Oneness, Sameness and Slavery

We have talked about this many times already; babies, young infants, no matter what race they come from, are both one and the same. They are born the same way. They grow in their mother’s bodies the same way. They depend for life in the same ways. If they are not nurtured, then they will die. There are no exceptions to this. In this, they are the same. They are also of oneness in that the energy of their lives is from/part of oneness. Their relationship with the air and water are part of oneness.

So how can one infant, because of where she is born, be a slave, while another is not? How can one infant, because of her sex, be a slave and be property to be bartered or sold, while another infant, because of his sex, be an inheritor and owner of property? Here are some examples of slavery.

  1. Physical Slavery – children and women bought and sold for sex; women with no rights, treated like property; children held as slaves to their parents; a wife as a slave to her husband; people working under fear of harm to themselves or others; people working for others with no hope of freedom from their captors because their “expenses” always exceed their small wages.

  2. Emotional Slavery – people subservient to another out of fear; children, grown-up children doing what their parents want, even though their heart is elsewhere; those who bully others, threatening, creating fear.

  3. State of Control – when one believes that she or he must follow the direction of another, because consequences, real or perceived, are dire (mentally, physically, emotionally).

It is very useful to put yourself in situations where you can experience the energy of oneness and also where you can experience the energy of sameness. This is one of the reasons for the message of Be With Your Children. With children you can experience oneness and sameness. The process of transition from early childhood to middle childhood to being an adult on your planet is too often a process of forgetting about oneness and sameness.

So, it is important that you look for opportunities to experience oneness and sameness. When you go for long periods of time with no direct sense of oneness and sameness, you are inviting in the dark. You can lose touch with the energy of the message You Are Not Alone, which in turn allows/supports your taking actions and pretending that your actions Do No Harm, when in fact your actions do create harm.


  1. Create for yourself a regular practice, both in frequency and substance, in which you experience oneness and sameness. At least twice per week, do your practice. I say this as a beginning step (as a young baby you experience oneness throughout the day). Pick music, spend time in nature, Be With Your Children, paint and meditate. Music and nature are the best forms for practice, for they carry with them sight, sound, and energy.

3. Myth of Less-Than Better-Than

What a distraction this myth is. All the myths are distractions. This one is a very large distraction.

The myths narrow your sight of possibilities, whispering so loudly in your ear, making it difficult to hear the music around you, hear the prayers of others. They cause you to sit in a rigid position, which only allows you to notice a few of the many things around you. This Myth of Less-Than Better-Than is a BIG distraction.

The Nature of Who You Are

What is your nature? Many people hold this question – what is my nature? This in turn leads to activity to encounter yourself. This may seem odd – or an odd way to express this. Many people of all ages and communities around the world are trying to encounter themselves, have an experience of themselves and learn who they are. This occurs for two reasons. One, this process begins in childhood and is not completed. Two, the natural healing process encourages this in response to the myths, which distract you from this movement of encountering yourself.

This desire to experience yourself goes by other questions:

  1. Who am I?

  2. What is the purpose of my life?

  3. What is my path?

  4. What I am supposed to do in my life?

  5. What is my gift?

What happens if the stance held by someone as they seek to experience themselves is either in-Knowing or in-Wanting? Well, the search continues and morphs itself to the qualities of the stance being held. Consider these situations:

  1. Mary is searching to encounter herself and is looking for someone who can answer her questions. She is looking for someone to tell her what her purpose is and what she is supposed to do in her life.

  2. Maria was told over and over as a child that she is worthless and not of value. She is wounded from her childhood experiences. She seeks relationships to encounter herself. Part of her senses she is not worthless. Yet she seeks relationships which reinforce that she is of little value. In some way, she needs this reinforcement because she senses that it is not the truth.

  3. Mark moves from relationship to relationship. He is constantly challenging and dominating, both energetically and physically: Show me who am I, what I am made of. As he bangs into men and women, this often creates harm.

Some people hold a single idea given to them about who they are: strong, invincible, wanted, unwanted, smarter, less smart. They move through an endless, repetitive cycle of trying to reaffirm this. They will often strongly defend this single idea and dismiss or avoid any experience contrary to this.

Others who also have not completed the process of encountering themselves will experience a deep sense that something is missing. Their sense of this may be strong or weak at different points in their life. Yet it is always there. Not discovering your gift contributes to this sense that something is missing.

A Special Case - Men Are Better Than Women

“And whispered from the Myth of Less-Than Better-Than, in the most seductive sound possible, was this phrase, repeated over and over again, until it was accepted as truth: Men are better than women.”

This form of imbalance has hurt the growth of the planet enormously. You have no idea how much wisdom is lost because individuals and communities believe and then act in concert with the phrase “men are better than women.” This particular expression of the Myth of Less-Than Better-Than has deep roots in all but a few communities in the world.

The imbalance between men and women is a serious situation. It is serious because the imbalance leads to great harm. First, the women themselves are harmed physically. They are raped and beaten by men without consequence in many communities. The men in their families abandon them. They are made to work and be slaves to men. Oh yes, there are exceptions, when women are slaves to other women. However, this exception is so small in the history of the treatment of women, it can only be offered by men as a distraction to the conversation we are having. I can say this because I can hold all that is happening on the planet and see the totality of it. I do not need to count, for I can sense and notice the treatment of women by men. This is an enormous flow of energy that is actively added to each day. These are the rules:

Whoever is less-than must work harder. Whoever is less-than must experience more pain and suffering. Whoever is less-than must do the undesirable work. Whoever is less-than must live in the undesirable places. Whoever is less-than must follow the rules and orders of someone who is more-than. Whoever is less-than, her contribution to the community is less-than. Whoever is less-than has less voice or has no voice in decisions. Whoever is less-than, the value of their life is judged as less-than. If a sacrifice is necessary for the community, let it come from those that are judged to be less-than; this is the nature of being less-than. It is the nature of the less-than to contribute to the wealth and status of the more-than. The less-than will serve the more-than. The less-than are wrong and the more-than are right. The less-than are not human. They are savages and not human.

All of the statements are alive even when the laws and rules of a community say that no one is more-than and no one is less-than. This is because these laws are lines and not beliefs.

The largest group of less-than on the planet are women. This is true in every community across the world. This is true in every community across the world. The fact that some communities have more wealth than other communities should not confuse you. The fact that some communities have more laws saying everyone is equal should not confuse you. Even in these communities, the women are less-than. Remember the myths are a flow of energy from collective thought. While some in the collective may hold a deep value of equality, this is not enough to transform the rest. Nor is the fact that one community believes its work is done because it has shined the light on the Myth of Less-Than Better-Than and changed its treatment of women. Communities are not separate. People are not separate. This is a process of collective thinking in which all are connected. The harm of this myth radiates in every direction of pondering – above, below, in front, behind, along side, in the past, future and present.

I look at the balance of energy in families. Holding all families, I can easily say to you women work hard. They work very hard. Often there is little left for themselves. Often the men have left the families. The flow of energy is not balanced between men and women. It is not balanced in your communities of work, your communities of neighborhoods, in your communities of education, in your communities of practiced beliefs. This should be the focus of your conversations – to notice and learn about the imbalances between men and women.

Understand that when a myth such as the Myth of Less-Than Better-Than has taken a specific form (saying that men are better than women and women are less than men), and has repeated itself over thousands of generations, you must look for it everywhere. In this moment, assume it is present and expressing itself in your life and your community. This is not a case of simple reflection where someone might say, “Yes, of course, this is a serious problem, a tragedy; and I have worked on this and am now free of this myth.” Or say, “Yes, I pay attention to this, and for the most part I am innocent in my relationships.”

Much is lost and the effects of harm are far-ranging. There are two dimensions to speak about: wisdom and gifts. In the great imbalance between men and women, wisdom and gifts fall in the chasm. Look at the world, as best you can; hold the entire world in your thoughts and senses. Understand that, in large part, what you see, what you have created, is a reflection of a lack of wisdom and a lack of gifts. In the world today, there is little invitation for wisdom to emerge and yet it does in a few communities. This is part of the healing process. Unfortunately, when wisdom does emerge, it is not often embraced. For example, there is no wisdom in war. There is no wisdom in slavery. Wise men and women speak to the lack of wisdom and to the harms of war and slavery. They dedicate themselves to stopping the harms, to bringing wisdom to the communities actively participating in war and slavery, to bringing wisdom to those communities who can help stop the wars. These wise women and men are not enough. There must be a chorus of voices singing, not individual voices. The warping of the energy of women on your planet allows war and slavery to continue. Yes, the many men who hold they are better-than significantly contributes.

If you wish war to end, “release the voices of the women.” Now this does not mean that men release the voices of the women; as if men are in charge of women’s voices. To release the voices of the women, create an invitation for women to share their energy. This is a service. Step aside, release your hold on the spaces of leadership; this too is a service. Stand in front of the other men, not harming them, simply blocking their way if they seek to harm a woman or make her a slave; this is a service.

For the most part, women are ready to speak, if someone will listen. There have always been women to speak to and to speak for a community. This is not enough. A chorus of women’s voices are required. A chorus of women’s voices not trained in being warrior leaders. A chorus of women’s voices is necessary, many of whom hold children in their arms. A chorus of women’s voices is necessary, many of whom are the elders and the grandmothers.

The energy of the myths will always have you look elsewhere for solutions of causes of problems, pointing you in a direction which leads nowhere. The energy of the myths will try to convince you that all these harms are sad, but unfortunately, they are simply the nature of things. Many will say war is inevitable. Going to war, using war to resolve differences is part of human nature. Many will say war is inevitable. This is the voice of the myths speaking. War is not natural. Regardless of how many times it happens. War is the result of imbalances. Create balance and there will be no war. Create balance in the voices of women, bring their voices forward, let the women lead you and there will not be war. In the bathrooms at work there are mirrors. The last thing I do on the way out is check my tie.

4. Myth of Lines

Once there was a great leader of the Seminole Indians. He was born at a time when his job was to protect the lives of all his people. His job was also to protect their way of life, their beliefs and culture. This was a big responsibility for one man and one which he took very seriously. It was complicated, for sometimes the path to survival for one of his responsibilities, did not (in his mind) support the survival of the other responsibility. He felt he had to make choices of life and death and sometimes sacrifice his beliefs and the beliefs of his people.

Today, most of you are not faced with these types of decisions. However, understand that there are places in the world where people are making these types of decisions today, both as leaders of their countries and leaders of their families. Somewhere on your planet, a leader is commanding people to kill other people. Somewhere on your planet, a parent is selling a child that he cannot afford to feed. What I know to be true about both these situations is that each person making this decision sees no other option. Each person knows that they are doing harm and are sacrificing their beliefs for survival.

I know it also to be true that both the parent and the leader (making these decisions) were once children. They were born the same way; and that as very young children (3-4 years), they did not know that they would carry the burden of these choices as they grew up. I also know it to be true that each of you faces choices in which you feel you have no other option than to do harm.

It is not easy to dedicate yourself to the practice of the message Do No Harm.

Not everyone thinks about land the way the people of your planet do. The Seminole Indians did not think of land in terms of ownership. Most native people’s have a different relationship with the land than is currently expressed throughout most of your world. To energetic beings, the division and ownership of land is one of the most profound manifestations of the world of matter. When I look at your planet, I see and experience a living being. How can you divide up a living being?

Principle – There Are No Lines

This is the next major principle that interweaves and flows among the current messages and the ones to come. There Are No Lines. The holding of lines is one of the Great Myths. Every fabric of your society all over the globe of your planet is based on the Myth of Lines. I say this to you again in the clearest tone (as in a chord of music) that I can – There Are No Lines. This principle is on par with Everything Is Energy.

Just like the emphasis you place on imaginary lines marked on a map, equal emphasis is placed on the lines that you draw in your mind. So, just as you draw maps to define the possession of something that cannot be possessed (the planet); you draw maps in your minds to navigate the world and in particular, to deal with people.

Before I continue, it is important that we agree on the first principle, There Are No Lines, as it relates to the physical geography of your world. There are no lines that can be seen from space. There are no lines to mark your cities and towns. Just because it is written down and stamped does not make it so. If it were that easy, then I would find the largest piece of paper and the largest stamp to make my words to you be so and it could be well! (Joke, smiling.) Just because there is history and many people repeat the same story of where the lines are does not make it so. No one owns the land of your planet, you are at best caretakers, you are not providers when it comes to the land. This is the job of your planet, to be a provider.

Just because you make laws, this does not make the lines real. Just because you spill blood over the nature and direction of the lines does not make the lines anymore real. You can pretend that the lines are real, but nobody else can see them but you. The native peoples who lived with the land and accepted the lands provisions knew this when they walked the earth freely.

So, if you can agree with my words that there are NO LINES, then we can talk about other forms of lines.

Lines of the Land

One common form of lines are the lines you create to define ownership of land. I start with these because this form is the most visible of all the forms of lines. The pursuit and dispute of these lines dominates your history. There are many generational wounds resulting from the pursuit and dispute of lines among people, communities, and nations.

What current war or past wars held in your collective memory was not about the pursuit or dispute about the lines of land or lines of the mind? What war did not result in the redistribution of lines or change in lines (boundaries). While we could quibble over the motivations and drivers of the war, the lines are always a significant part of the fabric of the story. Either the lines are redrawn, expanded, or the owner of the lines changes.

Think this over – How have the lines created by your species touched your life? How far back do you need to go in time before you or someone in your family was directly touched by the pursuit or dispute of lines? Were lines lost or given to you? Did lines prevent you from obtaining something you wanted? How far back in your family history do you have to go before someone was involved in a war over lines? Were they killed or hurt? In your own life, have you pursued more lines? Has this been a goal of yours? Have you been in a dispute over lines? How has the pursuit of lines of the land affected your feelings, your behavior, and your intentions? Meditate on this.

So pervasive is the Myth of the Lines of the land, over so many generations, that it shapes so much of who you are and what you do. Are not whole professions solely based on the drawing and redrawing of lines? Of course, “physical lines” are not the only form.


  1. Take a map of where you live that shows the boundaries between properties, communities, towns, and cities. With this map in hand, go to the highest point that you can. Looking around you from this height, find the lines drawn on the map with your eyes as you look around the horizon. If you want to understand where the myth that you are separate from everything else comes from, find a map of the boundary lines, do the exercise I just described, and then meditate on, where do the lines come from?

  2. These lines, where they come from, how you use them, the meaning you ascribe to them, represents the largest part of your inheritance as a species on this planet. Your pursuit to acquire lines, change lines, draw them more boldly, and increase the spaces within the lines – this is your legacy. As a species, your quest of lines stretches back across time in an unbroken pattern. Most of the history written in your “books of learning” are about lines.

Lines of Relationships

The second most common form of lines are of those about relationships.

  1. Johan and Marta have been married for almost three months now. Marta explains to her best friend that Johan is thoughtful, considerate, and very attentive to her, almost too attentive. “How is that possible?” Marta’s friend asks. “Well,” says Marta, “He must know everything I do each day. When I come home he asks where I’ve been, who I’ve seen, talked to, what I did. If I do not give him enough detail, he asks more questions. I have no privacy with him. We had our first fight the other night. I worked late unexpectedly. I was tired when I got home; and again, all the questions. ‘Where were you? Who was still at work? What did you do? Why did it take you so long to drive home? What time did you leave?’ Finally, I said, ‘Enough Johan, enough! You don’t own me.’” I stormed out of the house and went to my sister’s.

The lines of relationships often involve the energetic owning of another person. No person may pursue the ownership of another. I do not say this as a rule or commandment to you. Even if I were capable of making rules, you could simply chose to not listen to me. If You Are Not Alone and you wish to live in the full presence of this message, you cannot pursue ownership of another.

If you wish to Do No Harm, then do not pursue the ownership of another human being. Only harm can come from consciously or unconsciously, directly or indirectly, pursuing owner-ship of another or supporting those who pursue ownership.

If you are to Be With Your Children, you may not pursue owning them. Frequently, this means as parents shaping/modeling them into your image.

You are but caretakers of the spirit of your Children, not the owners. To Be Awake is to learn about your patterns, however faint they may be, of pursuing ownership of another person. The more you Walk Into The Light, the more you leave behind the patterns of pursuing ownership of those around you. You are not finished if you live in a community that does not pursue slavery. To be in practice with the principle No One May Pursue Ownership Of Another is to follow even the faintest tracks of this legacy in your life and in your community.

Are Lines Bad?

Surely all lines aren’t bad? We teach our children not to talk to strangers. This is for their own safety. It is sad that you have fear for your children’s safety and that another might harm your children. No lines are bad. If I say erase the lines, I am not saying that lines are bad. You pick a strong example. Of course you protect your children from harm until they are able to do this for themselves. I would never say to you, “Leave your children unprotected.” So if we could agree for the moment that we all share the same concern for children, I would like offer some more on the nature of lines.

To say to a child, “There are a few people in our community and from other communities who harm children. We do not know who they are, so together we must be careful. For now I wish you with all my heart – do not speak to or go off with strangers, ever.” This is not a line. When you feel you must create a “rule of behavior,” then do so in-Learning and encourage those who must follow the rule to be in-Learning also. This is helped by explaining the nature of the rule.

Consider though a family whose parents have rules about other families based on color of skin, place of birth, religious beliefs or wealth. The parents talk about their dislikes with vigor. The children listen and learn. They are told by their parents not to have “these other children” as friends or to respect them. In this situation, they learn lines about “these other families.” They learn to hold the lines in-Knowing, just as their parents do. These lines become very powerful because everyone is in-Knowing – the parents are in-Knowing and the children are in-Knowing.

So respectfully, I offer to you: Consider the lines which are held in-Knowing which limit possibilities. For now, the lines or rules that seem to do good and prevent harm, let them be. There are so many many more lines to chose from which limit your possibilities. It is a reliable point of reflection that in whatever situation you find yourself (especially if there is anger or frustration or intensity), lines are present. And that there are many more possibilities present than you can currently imagine.

Being a parent provides ample opportunity to learn about your own lines. Some of these lines are taught to you by your own parents and their parents. Lines easily move across generations. Watch for lines that move across generations. They are particularly troublesome to erase. It is inevitable that you will pass along lines to your children. So this is a principle – provide your children with a BIG eraser. You might laugh at this idea. I am serious. One of the greatest gifts a parent can give a child is a BIG eraser. In some ways, the difficulty and problems of conflict and harm are not that there are lines. The difficulty comes because no one has an eraser; or if they do, they are not using it!

In the world today, the promoting of lines is a very active process. Both you and your children are constantly exposed to this active process. Certainly not all lines presented to a child come from her parents. Teachers, other children from the community and the community at large are also sources of lines.

Breaking the Myth of Lines

1. Creating a Big Eraser

So how does a parent give her child a BIG eraser? Well, don’t be surprised when I say the first movement of a parent is to be in-Learning.

Be in-Learning as much as you can with your children. This is far more impactful than telling them to be in-Learning when you are not.

Allow your children to disagree with you. Encourage them to disagree with your lines and to ask questions. Allow them to engage your lines. Do not cut them off when they cause your lines to vibrate with tension.

When children come home with new lines, ask them about these lines. Explore the nature of the lines. Do not challenge them.

Ask the purpose of any line that creates harm. Ask, “How is this of value or satisfaction to you, to intentionally or unintentionally create harm?” If it is necessary to prevent harm, make a rule of behavior for a time with an explanation and dialogue. Do this as a last resort, after much discussion.

In general, offer equal amounts of listening and telling in your relationship with your children.

2. The Power of Questions

Help your children to learn powerful questions which serve them well. Invite them to be in-Learning. For a child, powerful questions are like imaginary friends who are always helping them to learn. These questions can travel with them wherever they go. Every child’s education should help them to discover questions of in-Learning, that serve them well and help them greet new experiences.

These same ideas apply to teachers who hold your children in school each day. It is also their responsibility to be in-Learning as much as possible. In particular, their great service to children is to help them find their own questions. This is a natural process of growth, to discover questions. In many ways, you have confused your children by reversing the process of learning in your schools to a process of knowing. When you emphasize what you know, this naturally leads to memorizing information arranged by lines.

Rather, ask your children about what they are learning naturally. Ask them what are their questions and then determine how well these questions will lead them naturally down a rich path of learning. I can assure you that your children will always run much faster down a path of their own choosing. If you lead them down your path of knowing by pulling, tugging, cajoling, rewarding or punishing – ugh, how many movements are these to get them to memorize information organized by lines? How slow is this process compared to a child running with abandonment, flowing with their own natural energy of learning?

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Myth of Time
Myth of Form
Myth of Innocence
Myth of Attraction
Myth of Pairing

The Great Myths are a form of collective intention. They cross the globe traveling at the speed of light touching everyone, shaping your experience and directing  your behavior, invisible until you shed the light of awareness on them. The Myth of  “Less-than Better-than” causes much harm and tricks many into believing that men are better than women.

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